You may have all the good intentions in the world of wanting to stop your break up and win your ex-lover back, but you could be actually be blundering along instead, making things even worse instead of increasing your chances of winning your lost love back. Have you committed any of the ten break up blunders? 1. Telling your ex that they are making a huge mistake. This won't convince your ex to change their mind, they will only be more relieved that they decided to break up with you in the first place. 2. Calling too soon after the break up.
Your ex has broken up with you and this should make it clear that they need some space right now and the last thing they want is to hear from you. 3. Drunk Dialing. That fourth glass of wine or beer has completely impaired your judgment so you keep picking up the phone and try and get your ex to talk to you. See #2 4.
Leaving tons of email and voice mail messages. Again - see # 2 5. Telling your ex and everyone who will listen how sad, lonely and depressed you have been since the breakup. If you are hoping to win the sympathy of your ex you need to understand that this is just being manipulative, and no matter how unintentional it may be you are still overwhelming them with your emotions and neediness, a real relationship killer. 6.
Continuing to argue about the break up and bring up past disagreements and squabbles. Perhaps you manage to get your ex's attention and get them talking to you. Do you think this is the best use of your time? You really are being fairly immature and petty and this isn't going to get you what you want. It will only keep you stuck in the past instead. 7. Professing your undying love over and over.
Even if you think that they don't understand how much you really love them, obviously that is not the issue right now or they wouldn't have left. It's time to take a different perspective and analyze what went wrong with the relationship and what you could do better instead of thinking that true love will conquer all. 8. Apologizing over and over again. Now if you did something wrong, really blew it by cheating or breaking a big promise you know you need to apologize. But if you don't know the right way to make an apology, (and hardly anyone does) you won't be able to repair the rift in the relationship.
You also have to know when to apologize instead of apologizing too soon. And if you really didn't do anything that needs to be apologized for then you are only demeaning yourself and this will make you even less attractive to your ex. 9. Trying to make your ex jealous. Now this may work initially because of the way humans are wired to seem to want what they can't have, and may even be a small part of a smart strategy to get your ex back.
But it still won't help you in the long run if you are only depending on manipulative tactics to win your ex back. The underlying problems that caused the break up in the first place will still be there and if those aren't addressed you'll only be heading for another break up. 10.
Pleading with them to take you back. I'll let you in on a little secret here: people like people who like themselves, who are emotionally secure enough not to want someone back so desperately that they will sacrifice their self respect by begging. Now that you know what blunders to avoid when trying to win back your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife it's time to get a perspective on where the relationship went wrong and what needs to change and then you can begin planning a SMARTER strategy for getting your ex back.
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