a member of a personals site
Usually a good personals site won't make you fill out too much
stuff to join. It is pretty annoying to be forced to fill out
pages and pages of stuff. Avoid sites that do that, it is
apparent that they were not designed very well. This site is
pretty easy to join.
Your a member, now what?
So you have just joined a personals site, now what? Well, now
you can check the site out. By now you should be able to see if
this is a quality site or not. One of the best ways to tell this
is by checking for advertisements. Are there a lot of ads on
Creating your profile
What makes a good profile? Well, consider something: You are
selling yourself. Although we don't typically like to think of
ourselves as 'products', when it comes to online dating, that's
exactly what we are. You can't expect people to be clicking on
your profile and sending you email just because you want them
to. You have to give them a reason.
The most important part
of your profile
What's the number one most important part of your profile?
That's right, your picture. Aren't we all so shallow? Well, no
actually! You don't have to be a supermodel or anything. The
point of a picture is to give your profile more of an impact.
Adding pictures to your
Adding a picture is seemingly the most difficult thing for
people to do, both mentally and technically. Maybe you want to
add your picture, but you are feeling a bit apprehensive? Who's
going to see it? What if someone I know sees it? I don't want to
be embarrassed! Forget about all of that. It's just not going to
help you out at all. Your picture is everything here, not adding
it would be a costly mistake. So just get over it already!
Things to keep in mind
about your pictures
Most digital cameras produce very large picture files. The same
goes with scanners. Most dating sites don't accept files that
are overly large as it uses up a lot of server resources. You
need to make sure your file is less than around 200k. If you
find that your picture file is larger than this, don't worry.
You can resize it yourself using one of the programs that came
with your computer.
Searching for people
Most dating sites have at least a few searching methods to allow
you to find people. These usually include some sort of basic
search, where you set an age range and distance, and an advanced
search, where you can set all kinds of criteria. One thing to
keep in mind when it comes to advanced searches is the more
criteria you enter, the less search results you will get back.
Getting too few results on
Are you running searches and finding that not many profiles are
getting returned? There could be a few reasons for this. Are you
living in a rural area? If so, there is not going to be as many
members, so you will naturally get back fewer results. You may
want to increase your distance to 100+ miles. If this is too far
for you, online dating services might not be what you need. You
may need to move! You have to be where the people are after all.
Many dating sites have a 'compatibility search', or 'mutual
match' search. This search type attempts to match you up with
compatible singles by comparing your profile with others using
an algorithm designed by the site. Each dating site has its own
method of matching, some are better than others. The question
is, should you trust a computer to decide who you belong with?
There are a couple of different ways dating sites charge for
their services. Most have time-based subscriptions. For example
one month, three month, six month, or maybe even one year
subscriptions. The longer service you choose the lower the
monthly price will end up being. One month may be $24.95 and
three months $59.95. We would recommend starting off with a
month, just to give the site a try. You may end up not liking
it, but if you do, you can always renew for 3 or 6 months later.
Prices vary for each dating site out there, but on average they
are around $20 per month, which is a lot cheaper than your
Most communication methods dating sites use revolve around email
one way or another. Not all systems are created equal, in fact
some are far superior than others. Below is a description of
some of the messaging systems personals sites use.