|Meeting in person for the first time
So you've been talking to someone online and
are finally ready to meet in person? Great! This is a pretty big
step. People are often surprised to find that the person they
meet isn't the same as they were online. Sometimes they are
disappointed. This happens. How are you supposed to get a good
feel for someone by just chatting with them online? You can't.
Our advice when it comes to meeting for the first time is to set
up something short, nothing over 20 minutes. Meet for a drink or
a coffee. You will very quickly be able to tell if the chemistry
that was there online is also there offline. If you think you've
found a winner, maybe you will want to do something else. But if
you think you've found a loser, won't you be happy that you were
only meeting for a drink, rather than going on a trip together?
What about long distance?
If the person you are meeting lives so far away that you have to
fly to meet them, you will want to be extra sure they are going
to be someone you will have good chemistry with. Talk on the
phone more than a few times. Make sure you have exchanged many
pictures. Make sure you know this person's religious and
political beliefs, as incompatibility here can be a disaster
waiting to happen. It is better to know certain things before
you spend $200 on a plane ticket!